Book Review of "Grieving a Soulmate" by Robert Orfali

Grieving a Soulmate: The Love Story Behind "Till Death Do Us Part"By Robert OrfaliMill City Press, Inc.ISBN-13: 978-1-936400-66-9280 Pages (Includes front and back matter)Review by Steven King, MBA, MEdFrances Moore Lappé, author of numerous books including Diet for a Small Plane (which sold three-million copies) once shared, "Even the fear of death is nothing compared to the fear of not having lived authentically and fully." Nothing could be more prescient of the life lived and enjoyed by Robert and Jeri Orfali - particularly in the last ten years of Jeri Orfali's life.Robert Orfali, an accomplished author with expertise in information technology, has written a love story worthy of Shakespeare with his Grieving a Soul Mate. Cancer reached forth its menacing tentacles and prematurely took his beloved Jeri from him. For those who might be battling similar scenarios, this tome will prove a ready resource to help the lone survivor deal with grief.Before outlining the highlights
of the book, it must be understood that this book is not merely for couples who are facing an imminent death-rather, this book should be required reading for anyone who is planning to enter a union with the specification of "till death do us part." This reality will invade all such unions and the tenets covered in this book would make excellent discussion material for those still in the planning stages of matrimony.The reader will be impressed with the depth of research Mr. Orfali employs in developing his subject matter. Initially, he provides a summary of Jeri's battle with cancer to provide a context of care which informs the level of grief he experienced. Robert shares openly of the mourning process and details many contemporary ideas about mourning the inevitability and harrowing experience of death. [Additionally, there is a complete Appendix that shares Robert's email communication to amplify the grief he experienced.]After setting the stage, Mr. Orfali masterfully t
ransitions to the premise of the book: how to grieve a soul mate. He describes grief bursts-the mind's nearly sadistic psychological attempt to force the lone survivor to deal with death. As he outlines what much of contemporary psychology has to say on the matter, the reader can be assured of the counsel Robert utilizes to guide the lone survivor to healing.In five chapters, Robert amplifies upon specific grief cures:
The Last Days
Survivor's Guilt
She's Gone Forever
Self-Pity
The Existential Issues
I like the way that Orfali does not leave the reader in the quagmire of despair. After outlining the methods he used to conquer these grief bursts, he guides the survivor on his journey to experiencing zero pain. The love story comes full circle when you see that Robert created a virtual memorial to his beautiful wife Jeri [Those interested can search online for "Jeri Orfali," and you will see an amazing virtual memorial.]. This website illustrates the vibrancy of Jeri Orfali, an IT executive who found her identity as a surfer in Waikiki, Hawaii. Up to right before her death, Jeri Orfali fulfilled the idea of âEURoliving authentically and fully.If you are currently grieving, or will face grief in the near future, this book will help you. Robert Orfali is to be commended for writing a compelling love story which doubles as a textbook on how to mourn a lost loved one.

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